Learning To Ask For Emotional Support
Not everyone is comfortable speaking about or seeking help when it comes to their emotional stability. While vocalizing your struggles may be outside your comfort zone, it is important to acknowledge the benefits of emotional support from family and friends, how it can impact your everyday life, and what to do next.
As your local Hermosa Beach therapist, I am here to encourage you to seek out this type of emotional support, or at the very least provide assurance that you are not alone in times of need.
When to Ask For Help
Knowing when to ask for support is the first step. Have you noticed that your normal, everyday behavior has changed? Are you finding that your emotions and moods swing more frequently than they used to? Are you closing yourself off from others, keeping things to yourself or isolating yourself from social situations?
If you’ve answered “yes” in your head to any of these questions, I highly recommend seeking emotional support from trusted friends or family members. Additional signs that it is time to seek support include:
- Making excuses not to do things
- Being overly negative
- Avoiding situations you would normally participate in or enjoy
- Finding it difficult to complete easy tasks
- Noticing your emotions fill your mind and distract from everyday life
Who To Talk To
Not everyone is comfortable meeting with a stranger and sharing personal details about their lives, and I am cognizant of that. That is why the rest of my team and I highly recommend seeking help from your inner circle first.
Sitting down with your family or friends and communicating hardships can be a valuable alternative to professional help if you are not yet ready to meet with a therapist. Your loved ones already know you personally and may even be aware of the triggers or reasons for you seeking emotional support. There is often a sense of comfort speaking to someone that you are close to, before taking the step to meet with a counselor who can provide a more objective point of view.
How Do I Ask For Emotional Support
Asking for help and opening up about personal obstacles that are bothering you can be intimidating. My first recommendation is to establish a clear line of communication. This line will ensure that both you and your trusted family member or friend have a fully transparent perspective on the situation. It is up to you to be honest if you want worthwhile advice from this person. Opening up to them increases the likelihood of them checking in and reaching out – but you have to specify what kind of support you need and want. Is it an everyday check-in or is it a monthly coffee shop date to talk things out?
Determine from the start what kind of support you’re seeking. If your family member or friend is unable to provide it in an understanding, healthy way – that is when I highly recommend visiting a professional.
Next Steps
While visiting an experienced therapist may not have been your first choice, it is strongly encouraged if your family member or friend is not able to provide the support you need. Visiting our local office in Hermosa Beach will provide you with an objective opinion, open ears, and a judgment-free environment. If you believe you need professional support, please contact our office to schedule an appointment!